by Suzanne Kryder
It’s not so easy to do.
Your brain was probably busy noticing, acknowledging, and melding the participants’ diverse styles, opinions, needs, resources, etc.
Have you ever run a meeting where there was lots of resistance?
Contentious meetings are extra challenging to facilitate. In addition to leading the external conversation which might include helping to surface and resolve disagreements, you might also be trying to notice and influence what’s happening internally---in your brain---and to hypothesize what’s happening inside the brains of your participants.
I hope you’re planning on attending the 2011 CBODN Conference on April 29th, because you’ll have the chance to hear David Rock’s keynote address on neuroleadership--- an emerging field of study focused on bringing scientific knowledge about the brain into the areas of leadership development, management training, and change management.
I had the pleasure to facilitate a training session yesterday on The Neuroscience of Resistance with the Peer Consulting Network (PCN) at the University of Maryland, College Park. The PCN---a diverse group of highly skilled faculty and staff---is the brainchild of Vicky Foxworth, the director of the University’s Center for Leadership & Organizational Change (CLOC). PCN members volunteer as consultants for CLOC organizational development activities. This means, that among other roles, they help facilitate meetings and retreats that can sometimes include resistant participants.
In the training yesterday, I explained how the mind is like a toggle switch. It’s either aware of something that’s happening in the present moment, or it’s involved in a narrative about the past or future. We began with a short period of mindfulness to, first, notice how the mind is usually in “narrative” mode, and, second, to practice gentle redirects from the prefrontal cortex to nudge the mind back into “now” mode.
Adrienne Hamcke Wicker, an Organizational Development Specialist at CLOC, commented about this activity, "If only the simple truth of mindfulness -- that being in the now allows you to see more information, detect more options, and make better choices -- were also easy. I suppose that is one of our many challenges as consultants - to allow space for the now, for our clients and for ourselves."
After the silent mindfulness, we practiced how to help people surface their resistance. One way to do this is through affect labeling. The simple process of naming feelings---even very unpleasant ones---in the present moment lowers firing in the “fight/flight” limbic system (takes your foot off the gas pedal) by increasing firing in the cortex (puts your foot on the brakes).
Vicky explained, “What pulled it all together was when Suzanne drew a model of the brain. We made the link of why using the prefrontal cortex to come into the ‘now’ and label affect helps people be calm and more present for training, coaching, or facilitation.”
If we don’t surface resistance in the present moment, the brain is likely to stay in its grumpy narrative much like a skipping record. The tricky part is that resistance is uncomfortable---physically, mentally, emotionally, and behaviorally. So, it’s important for the facilitator to build trust, go slowly, and manage her own resistance to any individual or group resistance.
Please look for Vicky and Adrienne at the conference so you can learn more about the PCN and other CLOC programs. Look for me, too, if you’re interested in connecting about mindfulness on the job.
And, please post to the conference blog. We’d love to learn how you’re dealing with complexity or using neuroscience in your work. For example, I recently met Priscilla Enner who has a fascinating job dealing with complexity at a macro level. I hope you’ll tell us about it, Priscilla.